MALALA YOUSAFZAI'S ‘FINDING MY WAY' LIFTS THE VEIL ON HER SECRET LOVE AFFAIR

Finding My Way explores not only Nobel Laureate's romance but also her personal growth, family conflicts, and resilience during her Oxford years

Mahtab Bashir
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Malala Yousafzai’s upcoming memoir, Finding My Way, reveals deeply personal insights into her secret relationship with now-husband, Asser Malik, during her time at Oxford University. The memoir, set for release on October 21, takes readers behind the scenes of a love story that was kept hidden from both the public and Malala's family due to cultural and familial expectations.

Malala recalls the secrecy surrounding their budding romance, describing how she and Asser would navigate their time together, including private meetings and wardrobe changes to avoid suspicion. She reminisces about one particular moment when she swapped her modest shalwar kameez for a pink, sleeveless dress. "When I returned to the table, Asser sat up straight, his mouth broke into a smile I hadn’t seen before,” Malala writes. “He whispered, ‘You’re a sex bomb!'"

Malala posing with her husband

However, the romance wasn’t without its challenges. Malala’s family, particularly her mother, strongly disapproved of the relationship, partly due to Asser not meeting the expectations of a Pashtun suitor. "Absolutely not! Does he even speak Pashto? She must marry a Pashtun man!" her mother reportedly exclaimed. The pressure from her family became so intense that Malala even asked Asser if they could "pause" their feelings until after she finished her studies. To which, Asser responded, “I’m not sure feelings work that way. But, for you, I’m willing to try."

Despite the tension, their commitment to each other remained strong. Nearly four years after their intimate wedding in Birmingham, Malala is offering fans a rare and heartfelt look at their journey, including the obstacles they faced in keeping their love private.

In addition to exploring her romance with Asser, Finding My Way digs into Nobel Laureate Malala’s self-discovery journey at Oxford, documenting her triumphs, struggles, and the resilience she built in the face of adversity. The memoir promises to be a deeply revealing and powerful account of her life, one that showcases her continued evolution, not just as a global advocate for girls’ education but also as a woman navigating love, family conflict, and personal growth.

A multi-city book tour will follow the release, where Malala will share her experiences of love, family, and resilience with readers across the world. Finding My Way will be available on October 21.