HUMOUR is the Biggest TURN-ON in Bedroom

You know it’s time to sex up your... umm sex life, when the passion goes out of fashion and action between the sheets is more about yawns than yearning. And no, we aren’t recommending aromatherapy or aphrodisiacs, candles or cushions, toys or technology. Just a healthy dose of laughter, which can take your sluggish sexual chemistry from agony to ecstasy.

How does laughter engender romance and love? “Laughter does not mean you’ve got to clown around or play the joker,” says Dr. Prakash Kothari, one of India’s most renowned sexologists, “The whole idea is to lighten up and treat sex as a journey where the pleasure is in the travel rather than the arrival. If you use your partners as sleeping pills, sex will eventually cease to hold any interest. Get adventurous and innovative. Like placing mirrors imaginatively and checking yourselves out while you warm up to the act. Be creative, not kinky.”

Laughter, say studies, is a definite mood upper for intimate moments. Media professional Sharmila Gupta*, who recently celebrated her twentieth marriage anniversary, says, “Laughter revs up the relationship and takes that special moment into the fourth gear immediately. Teasing smiles, uproarious shared laughter or muffled giggles are the stuff bedroom moments are made of.”

But while laughter could be the bind that strengthens sexual bonds as one grows into the marriage, does it perform as much when hormones and horniness are, anyway, high? Responding to this is the just-married emcee and popular TV personality Craig Gallyot, who says: “The biggest high of being married is that you don’t have to hide your kinky fantasies from society anymore. They’re all yours to experiment. We pick and choose our positions, and then double up with laughter as we struggle, contort and distort! Jokes and banter give way to sexual flirting and then it’s action time, folks!”

Even those in a relationship declare that cackles and chuckles heat it up for them. “Who wouldn’t like some sexy humour in bed?” asks Alistair Mendonca. “It definitely helps relax and get into the mood. Jokes and games increase the time spent together instead of just getting down to the job and then hitting the sack. It also gets the blood rushing to all the right places,” adds the 29-yr-old IT engineer, who’s in a steady relationship.

For young corporate executive Reshma, even the brush of a feather against her skin amps up the “sack session”. “Bedroom humour”, she declares, “is one of the biggest turn-ons.”

So, if you’ve hit some kind of a dead-end in matters physical, may we suggest a good roll on your sides before that roll in the hay!

Courtesy TOI

HABIB JALIB- A POET of ALL SEASONS

BY MAHTAB BASHIR
ISLAMABAD

Remembering HABIB JALIB on his 82nd Birthday today (February 28, 2010)

Muhabbat golion sy bo rahay ho/ Watan ka chehra khoon' sy dho rahay ho/ Gumaan' tumko ky rasta katt raha hay/ Yakeen' mujhko ky manzil kho rahy ho

Habib Jalib (1928 - 1993) was one of the most renowned Pakistani revolutionary poet of 20th century. A left wing activist and politician. He was a staunch democrat who opposed martial law, authoritarianism and state oppression.

After Nazir Akbarabadi, Jalib is perhaps the finest poet labeled as poet of masses. Like Akbarabadi he is truly a man of the people — his way of life is like that of the common people. His style of loving, thinking and feeling is like that of the common people, and his aspirations are those of the common people. And he expresses the sadness, the pain, the voice and the desires of the common people in their language. And if thousands and hundreds of thousands love Jalib so much, and lose control over themselves on hearing his verses, then this love, this infatuation, is not without cause.

While reading his classic collection of poetry, 1 am missing his words badly, as it is a time ripe enough to a voice like of Jalib to filled the air of this country. Here are few extracts from his mas­ter pieces…….

Har Shakhs meray des ka karzay may hay jakra
Mehngai ki afriyyat nay logon ko hay pakra
Soobay bhi hain biphray huay markaz bhi hay akra
Allah he cbaJata hay meray des ka chakra.

His poetry was a true reflection of Awami (public) feelings and aspirations. Jalib, never failed to lose direct, vibrant and strong contact with the masses in any regime till the last drop of blood running through his veins.

Farzi mukaddamaat hain jhooti sha-hadatein
Hum phjrbni likh rahein hein junoo ki hikayatein
Mujrim ki abb nishaan-dahi kon kar saky
Abb tak hein band ahle kalam ki adalatein.

Pakistan ki gheirat kay rakhwalo!
Bheek na mango
Tor kay iss kashkole ko aadhi khalo
Bheek na mango
Dosto jag-hansaai na mango
Maot mango, rehaai na mango
Ghaasibon say bhalaai na mango
Maot mango, rehaai na mango

Unfortunately, today there's no such person alive in these critical juncture of affairs, who can fight against evil and insist on truth. None is willing to sacrifice his personality and poetry for the common good of the people in modern days.

Yeh dharti hay asl may piaray
mazduron dehkano ki
Iss dharti par chal na sakay gi
Marzi cand gharano ki

Today, everyone is afraid of the power and wealth of the oppressors; Habib Jalib was the one who unmasked veils of those who massacred at night. Today, we need such person like Jalib, who can put life in the fad­ing pulse of the nation.

Amreeka say maang na bheek
Matt kar logon ki tazkeek
Roke naa jamhoori tehreek
Chore na aazadi ki raah
Pakistan ka matlab kia
La Ilaha Illal Lah.

Sometimes I think, how did this earthly mendicant get his power to say ‘No’? What is this power that makes this gentle person fight against evil and insist on truth? In fact this power is due to the love of the people and the animal spring which lends bravery and enthusiasm to Jalib comes from the people. Habib Jalib has sacrificed his personality and his poetry for the common good of the people.

Deep jiska sirf mahellaat hi main jalay,
Chand logon ki khushyon ko lay ker chalay,
Wo jo saay main har maslihat kay palay;
Aisay dastoor ko, Subh e bay noor ko,
Main naheen maanta, Main naheen jaanta.

Main bhee kha’if naheen takhta e daar say,
Main bhee Mansoor hoon, keh do aghyaar say,
Kyun daraatay ho zindaan ki divar say,
Zulm ki baat ko, Jehel ki raat ko,
Main naheen maanta, Main naheen jaanta.

Phool shaakhon pay khilnay lagay tum kaho,
Jaam rindon ko milnay lagay tum kaho,
Chaak seenon kay silnay lagay tum kaho,
Iss khulay jhoot ko, Zehan ki loot ko,
Main naheen maanta, Main naheen jaanta.

Tum nay loota hai sadyon hamara sakoon,
Ab na hum per chalay ga tumhara fasoon,
Charagar main tumhain kisttarah say kahoon?
Tum naheen charaagar, Koi maanay magar,
Main naheen maanta, Main naheen jaanta.

-Muhammad Mahtab Bashir

mahtabbashir@gmail.com

03335363248

Islamabad