YOU'RE THE AIR THAT I BREATHE ...

By Mahtab Bashir
mahtabbashir@gmail.com
Islamabad

I’m not a perfect person. There are many things I wish I didn’t do but I continue learning. I never meant to do those things to you. And so I have to say before I go further- that I want you to know.

Today is Valentine’s Day- a day supposedly dedicated to love, lovers & romanticism. On this day, I’ve found a reason to change what I used to be. I want to start my life all over again for a reason- and that reason is you!!! This day I want to dedicate a song to my dear one- the song I’ve selected is one of my all time favourite and down the memory lane, it was perhaps the only song I understand, rather learnt by heart during my college days.

With so many beautiful emotional songs, it's hard to pick just one, but one current song I really love is, “ALL THAT I NEED” from BoyZone- an all boys band of whom I was (am) a die hard fan. The song really depicts different situations, but for me it describes a relationship between a man and a woman. As the character sings I get the feeling that he is very sorry for things he's done in the past, and although he cannot change them he understands that his mind is made up, and he has no other choice but to "hang around" and see what happens next.

‘All that I need’ – Quite a meaningful song, shows that you don't have to "be someone else" all your life and that you should be you. You should respect yourself and the things you have accomplished. It’s all for you dear…. & you know who you are! … And I want to thank you, lady!!! Here’s for you…….
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2mlD6nEgyE8

I was lost and alone
Trying to grow making my way down that long winding road
Had no reason no rhyme
Like a song out of time
And there you were standing in front of my eyes

How could I be such a fool
To let go of love and break all the rules
Girl when you walked down that door
Left a hole in my heart
And now I know for sure

You're the air that I breathe
Girl you're all that I need
And I wanna thank you, lady
You're the words that I read
You're the light that I see
And your love is all that I need

I was searching in vain
Playing a game Had no-one else but myself left to blame
You came into my world
No diamonds or pearls Just like a castle of sand
Girl, I almost let love slip right out of my hands
And just like a flower needs rain
I will stand by your side through the joy and the pain

You're all that I need, girl
You're the air that I breathe, yeah
And I want to thank you
(And I want to thank you, lady)

You're the words that I read, girl
You're love is all I need, yeah
And I want to thank you
(And I want to thank you, lady)

You're all that I need, girl
You're the air that I breathe, yeah
And I want to thank you .......

Muhammad Mahtab Bashir
mahtabbashir@yahoo.com
03335363248
Islamabad

NICE MEN MORE ATTRACTIVE

When it comes to the dating game, nice guys are the winners, says Scientists.

Research shows that although good looks are still important, it is a kind heart that makes a girl go weak at the knees. Psychologists discovered that women are much more likely to fall for the man who shows generosity and a willingness to help other people.

In a series of tests, men who had "altruistic interests", such as working for a charity, were regarded as "significantly more desirable." Although being devoted to good causes will not make a man more physically appealing, it does make him a better candidate for a marriage or simply a one-night stand, the study revealed.

The findings came after experiments involving 150 female undergraduates at McMaster University, Ontario, Canada. They were shown a set of fictional dating adverts, each including a man's photo and a brief description.

Researchers changed the wording so that some women saw an "altruistic" version, while others got a "neutral" one. For example, one group was shown a man who played guitar in a children's hospital, while a second group was shown the same photo but told he simply performed "in a local establishment".

Results revealed that the women found the "nice guy" more attractive.

Dr Pat Barclay, who led the study, said: "In some of the profiles we gave hints to indicate kind, altruistic interests such as 'I enjoy helping people' and 'I volunteer at the food bank'. We found that women showed a strong preference for relationships with altruistic men, even though the clues to altruistic traits were fairly subtle. This suggests that women are attuned to generosity, and that altruism serves a purpose in mate selection.

"Folk wisdom apparently argues that 'nice guys finish last' and that they are less attractive than 'bad boys'. However, this is often an unfair comparison."

Other research has suggested that women are drawn to macho males regarded as "heroic risk takers".

Dr Barclay said: "Public generosity is a way to signal good character to potential mates. Altruism is a costly behaviour that seems to bring no obvious or immediate benefit to the altruist. However, as we have seen in this study, it seems to serve an important purpose in mate choice.
"If a man is kind and generous towards others - even strangers - then there's a good chance that he'd make a good and generous parent."

The report is published in the British Journal of Psychology.

Courtesy Telegraph